I going to be "Jack o man turn"

 

      "Max"
from "Wear da wide fings ares" 

We may have started Halloween a little too early around here. In August I started to explain October holiday after Annie Kate saw costumes in the Pottery Barn Kids catalog. "Yes I wanta be da Max." We ordered the Max costume 
only to be told it was back ordered. While at T.J.Maxx we found the "Jack o man turn" costume. Annie Kate insisted on trying it on in the store and wearing out. Of course then Max showed up and we had two costumes! So much fun watching this beautiful child experience so many new things we would other wise take for granted. The pumpkin farm, Boo at Zoo, school Halloween parties and trick or treating. She still needs a little work on trick or treating protocol. Apparently she thinks that when complete strangers answer their "ding bell" they are really saying, here is some candy and by the way: come right inside, tour our entire home, help yourself to whatever you want and leave when your good and ready! Shy she is not!

These people just told me about this thing called Halloween! Seriously? I get to dress up in a costume, ring stranger's "dingbell", say "ticker treat" and they will happily give me candy!

                                                         I am one happy Pumpkin!!!

Almost 11 months

       I know I have been lax in posting Annie's progress. It is hard keeping with this amazing little girl. We were given the  advise that we would find our "new normal" with Annie Kate in our lives. Honestly, as documented in much earlier posts, we were not sure about this whole thing. Life would change for us...we had no idea that our "new normal" would be this wonderful.
      We experience each day with a little soul who finds every moment of life so new and exciting! I have been keeping notes and will attempt to go back and fill in moments that I have not had time to document for our and about sweet girl.
       She remembers and can pick up on anything she sees or hears. One of her new infatuations is, Taylor Swift.
While riding in the car she said: "Mommy play da Tee shirt song"
I don't know that song.
"Yes you do's, played it peas."
"honey I am not sure what that is?"
"Pretend mommy"
"Ok, Annie wears a tee...."
"No mommy no is Molwee's fav o it song"
"Oh ( light bulb moment) do you mean, She wears short skirts, I wear tee shirts, She's cheer capt. and I am on the bleachers."
"Yes dats it!!!! I loub dat songs."

Nine Months!!

      Sept 8, 2012 signified 9 months since Annie Kate's homecoming.  When I consider that 9 months is the gestational time frame for a newborn to come into the world, I find the parallels with our Annie Kate to be just as amazing!

       In nine short, fast, joy filled months she has changed dramatically!

      We were all in awe of Annie Kate from the moment we first saw her precious little face. Her first word, "Mama" sounded like a symphony! Each day brought a new discovery, a new joy, a new milestone to be celebrated. Maybe it was the ability to leave the can of tomato paste home, or start preschool or learn to swim. Everything she has been exposed to she has embraced...and maybe gotten a little too used to. On the way to  Weggieminny's last month Annie announced: "Mommy I wants to go to Floor-da ( FL). I said we will go back to Fl someday. From the back seat this little voice said:" No, I wants to go to Floor-da now. Let's go to da airports and ride da airopain teeday to Floor-da."

       How she has grown in 9 months! Physically, she is growing... finally. I have recently discovered she now needs a 9 1/2 - 10 size shoe after wearing size 8 forever. Although many of the size 3t outfits still fit, we can safely move up to the next size for Fall.

    Last week, while at T J Maxx, she discovered a pair of $2.00 flip flops that she had to have because: "Day match Molwee's pink sandals." and "Day is purfect size sandals."
      These flip flops (that are actually two sizes too big) to Annie Kate, are always referred to as my purfect size sandals only. She will run to find them calling out: "Waits I need to find my purfect size sandals," as if she is saying my nike sandals. Purfect size sandals is all one word.

      She still uses some of her early favorite phrases such as: "Hello, how are you? Nice to meet you. What's yous name? My name Annie Kate." This is now followed by: "What's you doing? What's dat? Why? What's in dare? You have gum?" All of this in rapid succession.

       Her growth in other areas has been nothing short of extraordinary. Her command of the English language is on par if not advanced for her age ( I could be prejudice) The other day I was trying to get her to take a nap. She has learned to make humorous(to her) snorting noises in an attempt to simulate snoring. When I asked her to please stop she replied: "Why, does you fink dat is annoying?"

     She loved going to the golf tournament and her first concert found her dancing the night away, afraid of nothing! She practiced and under stood that holding up the quiet sign before a golfers shot meant her too. She cheered, yelled, Good shot! Get in the hole! Ahhh, good try, good try!

     She  speaks in paragraphs, long winded stories full of details and imagination. Her three best friends, George, Xintian, and Max ( three monkey stuffed animals) go every where, often misbehave and need to have consiquences for their behavior such as sitting on the stairs.

    Unsolicited, she will say: " I love you forever, add for ev-er, I never ever leeb yous, not nevers."
     She told me sometime ago: " be-member when I was in da China and you camed to gets me?"
    I said: "yes I do."
    "My was a yittle bit scared, but you singed me da baby song...I feeled better."

     Annie Kate picks up on everything said to her. I have used my early childhood education to recognize that if a young child...or any child at any age is looking directly at you there is a greater chance they will actually hear what you say. With that in mind Annie is the 6th of our children to be subjected to my famous: 'Look at my nose" command to ensure their attention.
   When Annie wants to make sure she has our attention she will say: "mommy, mommy, Listen to my nose." while pointing to her own nose. The other day she told me in a very stern voice:" I telled you 15 times!!" Apparently I wasn't listening and apparently she has heard this before!! ( cough, cough)

   Annie loves music and has her favorites: The other day she repeatedly asked me ( while in the car) to play:" da tee shurt song."
I could not figure out what she was referring to until she said:"Mommy, yous know, is molwee's
fav-o-it song."At that moment I thought I would die laughing.
     I said: "Do you mean, She wears short skirts, I wear tee shirts, She's cheer captain and I'm on the bleachers?" (Taylor Swift's, You belong to Me)
"Yes dat it, I loooobe dat song." Her other favorite songs are: Lady Gaga's, Baby I was born this way.
Adele's Someone like you, and Hallelujah in Mass each week.

     At this time last year we were wonder if we had lost our mind, were we up to this, could we really handle a 3 year old? At the adoption agency they said it will be different, it will be a new normal.
    What a difference 9 months can make in a life(s).
We are just thrilled beyond our wildest dreams with our new normal!
I promise to try and be a better blog poster! There is so much to tell about this little creature!!!

Just about exactly one year ago I opened my e-mail and saw her picture. The picture of a little girl that would become our daughter, Annie Kate.
I remember gasping, unable to breath. I remember thinking, oh my God can we do this? I waited two days to show her picture to Tim. This was real. The picture we were shown was of XinTian at age 2, but she was now 3. The photo was over a year old. What do we do? We had 48 hours to "accept" or not.
I'd love to say that I knew in my heart that everything would be just fine but the truth is, I was terrified. As my mother might have said: "Was I biting off more than I could chew?"
Tim and I would go back and forth several times. We couldn't sleep or think.  Every time we thought we were being realistic, one or the other would say, "But... then again... maybe we could...may be we should." We prayed. We looked for a "sign." We asked each other, was that a sign. We asked stupid questions like, what room would we put her in? Then we would look at each other and say," Ok that's not really a serious concern."
One phrase repeated in my mind,"If not us then who?"
Tim called our oldest son Timmy in Fl who had already simply said: "Go get her, bring her home."
It was a role reversal, father asking son for advise.
Timmy said, "Tell me,what are your concerns?"
 Tim replied, "I just don't know if mom and I can do this at our age."
 Our son said, "And what makes you think you will be doing this alone? You have all of us, our family and the Hillis. We are all in this together."
 That was it. The doubt was lifted and this little angel was ours and we knew it.
One year later we cannot imagine our life without her. What a gift, what a blessing, what joy she has brought to our lives and family. What a difference a year can make.
What a difference 7 months can make in the life of a child. Annie Kate has changed so much from that scared, confused little girl who was lead into a large conference room and handed over to a strange man and even stranger woman. The only one who look normal to her was Molly... thank God a sane person she must have thought!
Yesterday was a routine visit to Dr. Nirgudkar, our pediatrician for the past 30+ years. Annie Kate has repeated the assessment she heard him say: "Dacor say, I doing great."

Annie Kate has gained 1 1/2 lbs, grown 3/4 of an inch and is the 25th percentile. More importantly her adjustment, emotional development and attachment has progressed at warp speed. She is so happy, comfortable, smart, entertaining and has such a passion for life. She has embraced each of us as her family and knows she is home. She loves us and I know she comprehends that she is loved by us. She accepts that it is normal to have each of us wrapped around her finger.
Last year at this time even my rose color glasses did not see this beautiful scene we are so blessed to share and experience every day as a possibility!
Life is good!

Kayaking with big sister Molly!  "Don't getta me wet," Annie Kate would tell Molly as she paddled around the lake.

The lake is Annie Kate's new favorite place. She is in the water any chance she gets. Our neighbors came to meet her and gave her some wonderful gifts. Among the presents were a pair of pink "sunny..gloss..eez." Annie Kate loved them.
Try as we might to warn her that swimming with the coveted glasses was risky, she insisted... down went the glasses to the bottom of the lake when Baba lifted her onto the raft with him.
At dinner the story was: "Baba lossed my pink sunny...gloss...eez, darnit!"
Enter 9 year old neighbor, Aaron. While swimming at our dock Annie was again beating up on her dad's indiscretion regarding the priceless glasses. Without us noticing, Aaron put on his mask, search around the dock and found the glasses.
Annie Kate was thrilled. She put on her glasses... and jumped back in the water but this time she held onto them...for now.

Last month, while at the lake, I jokingly asked Annie Kate if she had made her bed and picked up her clothes which is the rule for being able to go in the water or on the boat.
She said:"I be right back" She returned pulling my hand saying: "Come I show you."
The above picture is how she made her bed..."all by my cell phone," she proudly exclaimed.
I was not sure if I was thrilled or sad that she could accomplish such a task so well at her age. I asked her if she made her own bed when she was in China...she happily said, "yes me did."
I choose not to dwell on what was likely expected of this little girl at such a young age while in China. I am going to celebrate that her skills will serve her well in life.
She knew how to make her bed, we did not teach her. She was able to picked up all her clothes and neatly put them back in her little duffel bag placing that in her closet.
The good news is she is very proud of her ability to be self sufficient and to help.
The bad news is her adult and almost adult siblings have yet to reach her level of personal responsibility.
Solution: From now on Annie Kate is in charge of supervising all clean up. Let's see her brothers and sisters ignore her... as it is, they hang on every words she says, find it impossible deny any request she makes and love it each moment they spend with her.
This seems like a win/win.

"Watchie Me Foks"

The other day Tim was playing on our back yard swing set with Annie. He guided her to the fireman's pole and helped her secure her arms and legs around it so she could happily slide to the ground.
Tim turned to me saying she doesn't realize she could just jump onto the pole herself.
Annie clearly hears, comprehends and can implement any directions. She climbed up the ladder, reach for the pole with her hand, flung herself onto the pole and stuck the landing perfectly!
With the speed of technology Tim immediately sent the video to all our older kids/adults.
Timmy text back: "Dear China, You told us we were getting a Special Needs child. Liars!"

Today, while at the lake house, I asked Annie Kate if she had picked up her clothes and made her bed. She took off upstairs only to return a few moments saying: " Come wif me uppie stair." She had made her bed ( bottom bunk) better than most of her older siblings. Her clothes were packed and zipped into her little suit case.  Maybe she was required to to this in the orphanage or maybe she really is that smart and co ordinated. Either way, she is the best of the best!

Fishing, nails and water slide

Just when we thought Annie Kate couldn't get any more amazing... she does.
There is nothing this child cannot do, try or accomplish. Timmy gave her a fishing rod of her very own for her birthday. She can hold it by her "cell phone" while reeling in a fish.( she prefers hot dogs as bait as opposed to shrimp...Timmy's favorite.)
Sunday when I told her I  needed to cut her finger nails... she proceeded to cut them herself! She held the nail clippers against her chest while maneuvering her fingers exactly into the correct position, depressed the clipper to cut them perfectly... all five of them.

Today, in the 90 degree heat, she sailed down the water slide, "all be her cell phone" wearing her month old plastic birthday crown, holding rubber duckie and yelling "quack, quack, quack as she flew down the slide.
Last week on a rainy day, she wanted me to move my car from the garage so she could ride her bike. When I agreed she replied and I quote: " Fank you so muchie, I reedy pre she ate tea"
Daniel had to translate: "Thank you so much I really appreciate it."
I can't imagine that we really had one moment of doubt about this child joining our family... It was a plan that could not have played out any other way!

Hoppy Bird Day Mudder See Day!

Annie's version of Happy Birthday combined with Happy Mother's Day!

Mother's Day

Today, is my 30th Mother's Day.  It has never lost it's magic and importance for me. I remember each moment that my 6, wonderfully different, children were placed in my arms. There are no words to describe the joy, the amazement, the instant unconditional, total, complete love.... and the fear.
This year is my first Mother's Day as Annie Kate's mom. I wish my Mother( GMA) was here to meet  her newest granddaughter.
As I picked her up from "BU" preschool Thursday, she eagerly presented her first ever Mother's Day gift to me. It was her hand print made to look like flowers with stems coming from the bottom and a sweet poem in the center. Her teachers were saying "Annie wanted to make it that way." At first, I took that as her left hand print in yellow and on the right side she painted what looked like a realistic tulip in blue.
It wasn't until Annie insisted on re-enacting the procedure that I understood her teacher's slight appearance of uncomfortableness.
Annie placed her left hand perfectly over the yellow flower then pointing to her right, said: "Do paint on my pecial hand, puttie on da paper, maka nudder flowrer," with the hugest smile on her face! Looking again I saw the blue flower is the imprint her missing hand made on the paper.
 It is the best gift... my child being proud and comfortable with who she is.
Happy Mother's Day!

Go Yankees!!!

Today was Annie Kate's first NY Yankee baseball game at the famous Yankee Stadium! As with every new adventure with this absolutely ( her new word) amazing child, she embraced every moment!

She was a bit confused at first. As she heard the first cheers of a home run being hit by Jayson Nix (#17) Annie started clapping and yelling : "Yeah Kenny! Good job Kenny!" She was referring to the PGA golfer Kenny Perry who she has watch on TV with Timmy. Not to worry, she figured it out quickly. Soon she was yelling her Grandpa Dan's favorite baseball cheer: " hid it yike yous mean it!" and "Go Jeezter!"
We had a great day!!

Guess who? Timmy says she looks like Dad!

Best Birthday Present Ever!

       The 1st birthday weekend for our 4 year old was a huge success! Riding Annie's new pink
 "bi ce cule" was mastered on the rail trail with big sister Meaghan who can home for the weekend event! The generous gifts from family and friends mesmerized Annie with each rip of wrapping paper.
        But when Uncle Marty, Aunt Nancy's  family gift ( a Dachshund doggie) arrived on Friday, Annie was over the moon! Annie is both terrified and in love with all small dogs. When we see any dog she will run up to the dog excited and eager to pet them. As soon as the dog makes a move or barks Annie turns, runs and climbs up the nearest familiar body to safety.
        So the fact that the birthday gift was a helium filled balloon in the shape of a Dachshund dog made this the perfect pet for Annie. The weights on the "doggie's feet combined with the helium made the dog hover and move in what appeared to be a  walking motion. The ribbon attached served as a perfect leash.
          The doggie named "Coover" went everywhere with Annie all weekend including to the diner for a girls lunch with Meaghan. Apparently, the dog had a hard time staying in the booth. Annie had to repeatedly chase him, pull him and reprimand him to "sitty down".

As the two opened to door to leave the cool breeze caused the "dog" to rush out ahead of the sisters scaring an elderly women as she tried to enter the restaurant. When Annie and I happened to go to the same restaurant this morning the hostess looked at Annie and said:" where is your dog today?"

Today 4 years ago, on the other side of the world, a women gave birth to our daughter. What were the circumstances that made her leave this precious four day old baby outside the Hefei Hospital. Did she believe this child's missing right hand would require more care than she could provide? Did she look into her sweet black eyes and sob knowing she had to leave her. Was she watching from close by to make sure her tiny infant was brought inside?  I can only imagine how her heart must have been breaking. I imagine on this day our child's birth mother is wondering, praying and longing to know that her child is happy and cared for. I can only imagine her sadness as she looks at the date on the calendar and thinks of the child that is not in her arms. Today I woke wondering and feeling sad for this mother I have never met but feel I owe so much.

If only she could somehow know that her sacrifice is a wonderful gift to a family on the other side of the world. I wish she could know that her baby was placed in the arms of a blue eyed, red haired women and family who are completely enchanted and adore this child. If only she could know that this child has been embraced by her new family and community with opens arms and loving hearts. 

In four short months this little girl has melted the heart of everyone she has met.

This date on the calendar is cause for celebration! If this date is our Annie Kate's first birthday she has ever celebrated she is clearly making up for the first 3 years she missed.

Today Happy Birthday was sung at least 15 times through out the day. At Annie's insistence there was a candle in her waffle for breakfast, in her yogurt for lunch and on her yellow cake after dinner. Her  face was price less as she watched repeatedly as the cake spun around on the  musical cake plate that was at each of my birthday celebrations during my childhood. After her nap the Myers traditional "search for your gift" had Annie following the yard through out the house...literally. Daniel and Molly started at Annie's bedroom, ran the string through the living room, out the door, along the north side of the house, back in the front door, to the kitchen, to the laundry room, out to the pool area, along the south side of the house, to the garage and finally to rest at her brand new pink, big girl bicycle!  

Tomorrow the party continues with friends and family, with more cake, a bounce house and I am sure additional renditions of "Hoppy Birfday to Yous". 

Chinese folklore believes that a thin red line connect those who are meant to be together and nothing in the world can break that thread. There is no doubt Annie Kate is where she was meant to be, with us her family. 

I pray for Annie's birth mother. I pray she can be at peace knowing the child she gave life to is happy, thriving and loved beyond words. Isn't that what all mothers want for their children?

Happy 4th Birthday Annie Kate!

"OH CANADA"

Wait Your Turn and The Filibuster!

There is no doubt that living in an orphanage one of Annie's first lessons, was likely, learning to wait her turn. In fact, the first time I ever mentioned that she would need to wait her turn to speak she understood.

Very quickly she learned to say: " Now it Annie torn!"

Although she always has a lot to say, lately when she is speaking she has refuses to yield to floor to anyone.

She has been known to continue speaking, alternating between English, Chinese and nonsense languages as she glances around the room for subjects to keep talking about. When we ask her if she is attempting a filibuster she replies without taking a breath: "Yes, filbusta!" Then keeps on going.

How to eat a popsicle!

Another fun day!

Annie awoke with the sun, ready to jump in the pool before breakfast. We have gotten her to stop referring to the jet skis as "car seats" which she happily waited her turn to ride until Molly had a spin around the intercostal. Annie's language astounds us daily. Today she clearly announced she needed some "lippy stick" before going to dinner. On the way home, her little voice from the back seat while waving her hand, requested the song, " All da single yaddies!"

Today was also a reality check. After nap time we gave Annie a Popsicle to eat out by the pool. She looked it all over and when it started to melt she announced she didn't want it. It had never occurred to me that she would have no idea what to do with the cold, sticky, dripping treat. I showed her how to sip the juice from it, turn it, bite it and finally lick the stick.

Being a very quick study, Annie discovered she could clean her messy Popsicle hands by dipping them in the pool, reapplying lippy stick, head off for her turn on the "car seats" all while singing her new favorite Beyonce song!

4 Months and a life time ago!

Today marks 4 months that we have had Annie Kate home with us all. It seems like she has always been here.

In such a short number of days she has completely changed our lives and as much as we feel uncomfortable admitting, we have changed hers.

Daniel and I were discussing the nature/nurture debate today.

We concluded maybe it is as simple as Annie Kate has been given the space and opportunity to be the individual she was born to be. This tiny little person seems to embrace her new world and family as one exciting adventure after another. Each and every day she is thrilled with every experience.

Yesterday, she caught a fish on her own with her new fishing rod, rode a jet ski for the first time, and finally Annie Kate bravely jumped into the pool unassisted and swam. With no nap she was dressed up dragged to a restaurant where she ate all Timmy's clams along with her own meal and she never questions the rule, no soda for Annie.

I am humbled at the trust she displays towards all of us. Some how she knows or feels we will not let her down, we will not let any harm come to her.

In 4 months time she has gone from having no parents to guide and love her to seven, plus an extended family that may be as vast as China itself.

In 4 months time her language has gone from having never heard English to proficiency. She not only can understand everything but she can also express herself... very clearly. Last week from the back seat of the car this little voice said: "I donut like dis song, different song peas."

Tonight while being praised for her good manners at dinner Annie interrupted ...."and patience too!"

On this Easter Sunday we are blessed beyond words. We have our very own little miracle. Thank you God!